SWITCH OFF YOUR HEADLIGHTS!!

Every human is prone to committing mistakes! I always find it easy to identify my peers' mistakes. Many a time i used to think- "Look at the way that guy behaves. Isnt it obvious to him that he is making a mistake?? Why doesnt he realise that??" It took me quite some years to realise that my peers might be having similar thoghts about me. The funny part is that we humans can easily identify and criticise the mistakes of others but when it comes to our own case we are left in the dark!! One fine morning i realised why....

Early morning i was driving through the streets when i saw a guy riding a bike. It was a beautiful sight. The guy was proudly riding his new bike.. But as the guy crossed me, i noticed that his headlights were switched on. He didnt realise that he had his headlights on, but to me the headlights were glaring... Then it suddenly struck me... Thats the way we go through life.. We hold our heads high and strut through our life... But unknown to us, our mistakes are glaringly visible to the person before us!! Our mistakes that we will never realise are so clearly visible to the person before us and vice versa. We are so busy making fun of the other peoples' mistake that we dont realise that our own headlight is switched on!!

The easiest solution would have been to point out each others' mistakes and be done with it. But we dont work that way!! One obvious reason is that no one likes being told that he/she is wrong. We all believe that we are the only ones doing it right. Once i pointed out to my friend that he talks quite rudely to everyone! My friend was surprised. He replied-"But thats the way i always talk! Thats my way of talking!" We commit so many mistakes without our realisation!! A good friend is one who points out your mistakes. But after he points out your mistake, he ceases to be a good friend to you!! Kill The Messenger who Brings Bad News is a widely prevalent human tendency! Hence there is always a question of who will bell the cat! Hence we tend to take the easier way out... We resort to the ugliest tactic possible -

WE TALK ABOUT OTHER PEOPLE BEHIND THEIR BACKS!

This is the ugliest habit that almost every human invariably nurtures!! We all are hypocrites. We smile in front of peoples' faces and snigger behind their backs!! Lacking the courage to confront people directly, we vent our anger by gossiping about them! Nothing good is going to come out of this -

1. Awareness preceedes change. Unless a person becomes aware of his mistake, he cant correct it! So talking behind his back is not going to change him!!

2. This bad habit only results in nurturing hatred.... When we are focused on the negative side of a person, the relationship with that person is not going to prosper!! What we focus on magnifies!! Every person has good qualities as well as blemishes!! We can choose to focus on Hilter's good qualities or on Gandhi's bad qualities. The choice is ours!!

3. The people with whom you gossip will obviously gossip about you in your absence!! Hence we end up creating a group in which every person is mocked at in his absence!!

There are hundreds of desires i foster but havent got the courage to try it. I am afraid of being mocked at... thanks to the people who talk behind my back, i will never have the freedom to live my dreams! This bad habit breaks a person's self confidence and nurtures doubts in his mind. Its high time.....

Forget about being kind, loving, helpful and whatever other good qualities that you can think of... A person who doesnt talk behind other people's back is by far the best person on this planet. A person who has got this one quality can never be a bad person. But such people are rare and its truly difficult to be such a person. Involuntarily we all end up talking bad about others and when we are in a group, there is always the problem of conformity.. Unless we agree to our peers opinions about others, we cant be part of that group.

Every good deed is difficult to accomplish. But with will power and perseverance, every good deed can be made a habit! Let us all vow to be better human beings by not indulging in back-biting!!

If ever you see me committing blunders(which i so often do), dont waste your time back-biting...you are welcome to point it out... No hard feelings... I will ensure that i switch off my headlights and i will be ever grateful to you!!