What must have been the actual reason for marriage becoming a practice? A man and a woman must have really fallen in love with each other that they don’t want to spend even a minute without each other. So they end up living and settling together. As a sign of love and to exhibit their solidarity to the world, they must have invented the practice of marriage. But the problem with these old time practices is that as time passes the real reason behind the practice is forgotten and only the practice remains. Maybe someone saw this couple (who really love each other) living happily together after marriage and came to the wrong conclusion that marriages are a means to become happy. Well the problem starts here. Man doesn’t realize that happiness is inborn and cannot be obtained by external means. So man ends up searching for it outside and is ready to blindly try out any practice that appears to hold even the smallest possibility of providing happiness! So marriage ends up being advertised as the panacea for man’s woes. A happily married couple is the genuine advertiser. What about the unhappily married couples?? They advertise all the more as they find a sadistic pleasure in making sure that the rest of us commit the same mistake so that they won’t be the only fools!! So in the end marriage has become a practice that is followed by everyone. The real reason people (exception: couples really in love) marry:
- In India, marriage is the license to have sex! True! And that’s the main reason many marry!!(Foolish people!! See end of post for better ideas!!)
- The individuals don’t want to appear queer. They don’t want to be left out. So they follow the crowd. Humans are actually sheep in human clothing. We haven’t got the courage to be different! And the fear that they might be missing out on something worthwhile adds fuel to the fire!
- The individuals are so bored with themselves that they decide that another person in their life could only be an improvement. The more the merrier they say! Unfortunately realization comes a little too late. These people realize that if life is boring as an individual, life is both boring and irritating as a couple!!
- This is the best one. The married couples can’t stand the freedom enjoyed by the individuals. After all it’s a stark reminder of the grave mistake that they have committed. So outside their homes, these couples put up a great show of really being happy together. The fickle minded individuals fall prey to this act.
- For the maverick individuals the couples have got a better idea. The couples come together to form what we call the society and collectively blame the individuals of not being beautiful/handsome enough or not being worthy of marriage. They go to the extent of blaming the individuals to be impotent and it eventually works! (After all unity is strength and no one can withstand an insult on his/her manliness/womanliness).
Marriages in foreign countries are any day better than those in traditional India! The first time I read a Sidney Sheldon book, I was visibly alarmed. A couple spends many nights together and then suddenly one day the man proposes!! Shouldn’t it be the other way round??? But then I realized that the foreigners are clever. The couples ensure that they are at least sexually compatible before they decide to marry!! Can’t blame them. It solves one major problem. The number of divorces in foreign countries is by no means a valuable argument to prove that Indian marriages are better. Foreigners have atleast got the courage to accept that they have made a mistake by marrying and are ready to make amendments. Take the Indian scenario! An unknown man married to an unknown woman. Marriage doesn’t work. Not enough courage to break up. Within the house they either fight like cats or don’t even talk to each other. When they venture outside, husband and wife- arm in arm and with a pasted smile on their face… Oh darling!!(Oh damn it!). For the sake of the society and to save face, the amount of effort these people take!! They end up wasting their whole lives living in hell!! Incidentally “Marriages are made in heaven” is the cliché used by many. Well maybe that’s why they don’t suit people on earth!!!
Frankly speaking sex is the only thing that appeals to me in an arranged marriage! And I feel marriage is too big a price to pay for that. I might as well follow celibacy or (if I am bad enough) there are more appealing ways to satisfy my desires!! :)
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Good one on marriage.
I think there is nothing like marriages are good or bad. Or western marriages better than indian or vice versa. Whole insitute of marriage followed generation after generations blindly. This is under constant degradation/agradation by other insitutes like institue of society,institute of religion, nation, cultures etc.
Comparsion between the western culture and our indian culture is really superb... I think, we people in india,just cheat ourselves by showing false pretension to others..
marriage,as you think is not an easy subject to think like pets or dilapidated houses.In hindu culture it carries lot of meanings.Approaching this subject with our own(individual) views won't reveal real or correct picture.Discussion with different (age)group with open ideas, we may explore the subject and come to a conclusion. Sex is not main or even a part of the concept of Marriage. It may take active part or No part in marriage. But that is not idea(l) behind it. And rather Sex is a separate subject which need not be connected to marriage. It's also a matter of subject which need very long and very deep exploration.
Marriage draws a line between human and animals. Having sex with whom ever you like will not satisfy or fulfill your thirst. You will look for more and that MORE is never ending. There is a purpose of birth and one has to realize that. One of the stage is grihastha, where the man will hold responsibilities of a family and have to cross that stage. Fine letz forget about religion for a momement. If one getz older, he/she will be desperate for a soul mate not for sex but for to share and care. Again, marriage is indiviual decision and it has nothing to with society. Nobody can impose their view on others. So choice is urs...
Ah, the good old days when you were the rebel. You were Thala. My thala. Ready to stick it to anyone who was anywhere close to irrational. Now, look at you, man. What happened to you? :P
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